Why is that sacrificing people or do gooders (those who make it thier mission in life to only give (be it help or any other thing), often land up antagonising their beneficiaries and making them ungrateful thereby resulting in a broken or soured relationship? Why do people whom we often help slowly become ungrateful and hostile towards us?
We must understand that most human beings (no matter how vile they are) have a deep sense of self respect. When a benefactor keeps giving but does not allow his beneficiary to give him give anything in return, the latter's self respect suffers a blow. He feels valueless and slowly starts to feel burdened with his benefactor's favours. Deep inside he begins to feel like a beggar and no human being will be comfortable with such feelings.
The key point to make here is that always allow the other person also to give you something in return - it could be help or a favour or some gift or just about anything. We must be aware that a I-am-born-only-to-give attitude though chivalrious it may sound is certain to make many ungrateful beneficiaries (be it friends, relatives or whosoever else). When you allow the other person to give you something in return you are in effect allowing him to exercise his dignity and his self respect and he is certain to like you for it and your relationship with him will continue to be good. He will no longer feel stifled by your favors.
We must understand that most human beings (no matter how vile they are) have a deep sense of self respect. When a benefactor keeps giving but does not allow his beneficiary to give him give anything in return, the latter's self respect suffers a blow. He feels valueless and slowly starts to feel burdened with his benefactor's favours. Deep inside he begins to feel like a beggar and no human being will be comfortable with such feelings.
The key point to make here is that always allow the other person also to give you something in return - it could be help or a favour or some gift or just about anything. We must be aware that a I-am-born-only-to-give attitude though chivalrious it may sound is certain to make many ungrateful beneficiaries (be it friends, relatives or whosoever else). When you allow the other person to give you something in return you are in effect allowing him to exercise his dignity and his self respect and he is certain to like you for it and your relationship with him will continue to be good. He will no longer feel stifled by your favors.
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